October 4, 2009

Day 9 Sans Coffee- Help!

Still nothing...is this writers block? I am actually writing this 3 days after this entry date and submitting it late. I just keep thinking I will come up with something. HELP!

“Do you ask for help when you need it?” is the question in 12 days journal #175


  1. Sometimes I get excited about a really cool smoothie recipe I tried and post it online. Or a song I learned to play. Might help with your challenge.

  2. When I get writer's block I usually go into a bit of a panic mode. Then I go see my therapist. Then I have tons of fodder for my work. Having said that you have a block for a reason right now. The questions you are asking are great. Just allow yourself to see the block, know that you are putting a great work into the world and let inspiration come to you and the writing will unfold. Trust.

  3. I never used to ask for help when I needed it because nobody in my life back then would ever give it. I learned how to rely on myself and that was not necessarily a bad thing...it can't be all bad to know that if everyone else lets you down, you can still manage to pull yourself up. That can definitely be a comforting thought.

    Then I read some stuff that suggested that there's nothing wrong or bad about asking for help when we need it, and that there are probably people in our lives who love us and would be happy to help us but won't know we need it unless we ask (because, yk, none of us are mind-readers). I realized that never asking for help might actually be putting up barriers between myself and those who love me and want to help and be there for me, etc. I decided it was time I start swallowing my pride and asking for help when I needed it.

    In some cases, I've been pleasantly surprised at how many of my loved ones have been stepping up to the plate on my behalf to help me out. In most cases, however, I'm finding that the help I'm being offered is just not meeting my needs. It's not the fault of those who have been offering to help...they can only do what they can and no more...but from where I'm sitting, allowing them to help me is ending up becoming more work and effort and rearranging the stuff I needed in the first place to try to give that person the opportunity to help.

    Quite honestly, I'm getting to the point where I don't think I'm going to bother asking anymore. If it's going to be more work for me, then it isn't worth it to me. I don't mean to belittle the efforts of my loved ones...I love that they want to help...but it's really, well, just not helping me at all. LOL.

    Sorry, B, once again for hijacking on you. LOL. You keep asking the kinds of questions that are leading me to emotional brain-dumps and I don't think I have too many people I can share some of these with without hurting their feelings.