tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-123460635103303488.post6102990311604885599..comments2024-03-22T00:25:12.029-07:00Comments on 12 days 2 inspire .com: Day 2 Karma Yoga- When Help Doesn'tMagdelene ~ Lover, Mother, Mystichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01130333217424478940noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-123460635103303488.post-60804875115540582342009-06-14T22:16:57.404-07:002009-06-14T22:16:57.404-07:00Conflict sucks, plain and simple! LOL. For the m...Conflict sucks, plain and simple! LOL. For the most part, I try to talk it through with the other person. I try to listen without taking anything personally, while at the same time being open to taking responsibility for my part in things, also trying not to beat myself up for my failings. I try to speak my truth in the least hurtful, most loving and compassionate manner I can, and forgive freely when the other person also takes responsibility for their part in things. If all goes well, we work it out and are better for it.<br /><br />Unfortunately, it doesn't always go this well! Sometimes you get into conflict with someone who doesn't operate with the same level of mutual respect as you do. In situations like that, I just do the best I can to do what I perceive to be the right thing to do, hope for the best, and leave the rest. You can only control yourself, not the other person...if they are going to be unreasonable and/or hold grudges, there's not much you can do about that. This has been a hard lesson for me to learn, that not all conflicts can (or even should) be resolved. Sometimes they just don't and you just have to let it go. But I'm always, ALWAYS happier when conflicts can be worked out in a mutually satisfying way.Angel Atwaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17400100745812977490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-123460635103303488.post-27937073627513023672009-06-12T22:30:49.575-07:002009-06-12T22:30:49.575-07:00What a day! Dealing with conflict, mostly I avoid ...What a day! Dealing with conflict, mostly I avoid it. If it happens I get very rational and say things like "Are you always like this?" or "What's the point of that?" or "Are you drunk or stupid?" This, I feel defuses the situation sometimes,and is helpful in seeing the issues. It also allows me to feel superior and right, no matter what. The disadvantage is that I don't get to rant and rave and get it all out of my system. I guess the best answer I can find is to see everyone with love, and then no matter what is said or done, it's all an expression of love, the best possible under the circumstances.Anthonynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-123460635103303488.post-12117805162426361652009-06-12T18:44:48.510-07:002009-06-12T18:44:48.510-07:00I felt that entry right in my heart. Wow, what pow...I felt that entry right in my heart. Wow, what powerful words. I suspect that this friendship will become stronger but the process of it becoming was heart rending.<br /><br />How do I deal with conflict? Wow, that's really good question. When the conflict is not with someone who I love a lot I can be very present and rational and understanding. I talk things through. I work in partnership to resolve issues. When I am triggered emotionally by someone with whom I am close I aspire to do those things that I just mentioned. Too often I take things personally and get angry. I am working on this, though. I appreciate having the opportunity to write this down. Thank you so much.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13822992298044627828noreply@blogger.com